Margarita Sukhankina: “Andrey said:“ Your children will never become my family for me. The mother died, and the father is in prison: how does the brother of Margarita Sukhankina's adopted children live? Mother of the children of Margarita Sukhankina
Margarita Sukhankina with her son Sergei and daughter Valeria Recognizable "voice" of the most popular hits of the Mirage group Margarita Sukhankina to this day he performs with the songs loved by the public. The author of the lyrics Valery Sokolov gave permission to perform his compositions only to two singers - her and Svetlana Razina.
Less known to fans that Margarita worked for 14 years at the Bolshoi Theater. The artist possesses the classic mezzo-soprano and has established herself as a successful opera singer.Now the 53-year-old artist is in charge of her own musical group, she is on the jury of the children's vocal competition "You are super!" on the NTV channel, and also maintains a column on foster parenting for one of the major Internet portals.
“For the first time I saw my own children, who are already very much loved and inalienable from me, on TV, in Timur Kizyakov’s program“ While everyone is at home ”. I am very glad that on that very day I was at home, turned on the TV and saw the heading "You will have a child", where they showed my children. I immediately had a "heart break", and literally a few days later I arrived in the city where they lived. "
The artist recalls that she instantly "coincided" with the children - the very next day Serezha and Vika called her mother. The singer herself fell in love with them at first sight, and every day she feels them more and more close and dear.
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At first, Seryozha often bullied and offended Leroux. Margarita patiently explained that she and her sister were dear people and should take care of each other, treat each other kindly. Over time, the children became very friendly: "It seems to me that the truth that they are brother and sister, Serezha and Lera really realized just when they moved to live with me."
The singer noted that she is very strict with children, because she is responsible for them: “At the same time, I am categorically against any punishment of children! And it doesn't matter how you try to punish the child: by declaring a boycott, insulting him with a word, depriving him of his pocket money or hitting him. Insults and punishments can only achieve one thing - the child will begin to be afraid of you. Parenting is about coping with your emotions and calmly explaining to your child what he did wrong. When he understands the situation and tries not to repeat his mistakes anymore, it means that you have become a parent as a parent. "
According to the artist, the main thing for parents is to educate themselves: "By indulging children's whims, not following their own words, not showing the kid an example of how to behave, believe me, you cannot achieve the result."
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In 2013, Margarita Sukhankina, the soloist of the Mirage group, popular in the 1980s and 1990s, at the age of 49 became a mother for the first time, with two children at once: a boy and a girl. However, Margarita did not rejoice in her newfound female happiness for long. A few months later, her son and daughter were almost taken away from the singer.
Unsuccessful marriages and pregnancies
Margarita Sukhankina always dreamed of becoming a mother. However, unlike professional activity the singer's personal life did not develop for a long time. The first spouse of Sukhankina was a foreigner, Croat Antun Maruna. Together with her husband, she lived in Germany, then in Switzerland. But the well-established foreign life turned out to be an unreliable platform for the family. In addition, as Sukhankina herself admitted, Marun made her a housekeeper, and she wanted to perform on stage. In the end, after 2 years, Margarita and Antun divorced, never having time to have children.
The second chosen one of the performer was a man, whose name she never named. However, Sukhankina more than once recalled that her husband often raised his hand to her and suffered from alcoholism. He also forced Margarita to have an abortion when she first found herself in a position. The next time, the singer decided not to listen to anyone and still give birth to a child. When the pregnancy was already coming to an end, the baby suffocated in the womb and was born already dead.
Children from the TV
As time went. Age no longer allowed Margarita to rely on her own strength. But Sukhankina was not going to give up her dream. She was thinking about in vitro fertilization and surrogacy. However, as often happens, chance decided everything. In 2012, in one of the television programs, the vocalist saw a story about a brother and sister who turned out to be unnecessary to their parents and sent to an orphanage. Margarita realized that it was these children that she had been looking for all her life.
The very next year, 3-year-old Valeria and 4-year-old Sergei celebrated a housewarming in the house of Margarita Sukhankina. Despite the fact that the brother and sister got used to the unfamiliar environment for a long time, they began to call Margarita their mother on the second day after the move. Just when adopted son and Sukhankina's daughter settled in a new place, the biological father and mother of Valeria and Sergei suddenly appeared in the singer's life.
Father is a criminal and mother is an alcoholic
Learning that she took their children to her famous artist, the parents began to feign remorse and insisted that they missed them very much. However, Sukhankina did not believe them. Valeria and Sergei's father, Alexander, by the age of 30, managed to be behind bars at least 5 times, and Olga's mother abused alcohol. Moreover, when she showed up to Sukhankina, the woman did not hide the fact that another child of hers, a disabled child, was in a boarding school, and she herself was pregnant again.
Fortunately, the unfortunate spouses did not manage to return Valery and Sergei. The numerous convictions of the father, who were not even included in the birth certificates of the children, and the alcoholism of the mother, who, among other things, by that time had already been deprived of parental rights and was not going to change her lifestyle, played a role. And soon the alcohol completely brought the woman to the grave.
Valeria and Sergey today
It is interesting that, according to Margarita Sukhankina herself, who, of course, was not going to give up the children, the mother of the biological father of Valeria and Sergei took her side. Elderly woman was glad that her grandchildren finally fell into reliable, kind and caring hands. And indeed it is.
Today the singer's daughter and son are already attending school. In addition to studies, they attend hobby groups: Valeria is fond of dancing, and Sergei is learning to play the piano and plays basketball. As Sukhankina admits, now she thanks God every day for the happiness given to her.
Recently it became known that the soloist of the Mirage group broke up with Andrei Lityagin. V candid interview The singer told the website portal about the breakup, as well as about the difficulties in raising adopted children.
- Margarita, it's been three years since you had children. Tell us how they grow, what talents they show?
It seems to them that everything is subject to them. I observe unique things: they sculpt, paint, write, read. Seryozha, of course, is in the forefront, since he is older, Lerochka tries to run after him, but she has a problem - she is left-handed. Her brain works in a dual mode, she not only tries to write in the other direction, from right to left, but also to read. Therefore, reading is given to her a little more difficult.
- Do you do music with them?
Certainly! They play the piano. While there were autumn vacation, as they say, coached them at home. I did not send my children to kindergarten, they study in preparatory school... Classes are held there once a week and in seven days everything fades away. We often walk, so the wind blows everything out of our heads! (Laughs.) So we try to practice every day at home. Lera goes to dances and rhythmic gymnastics... She dances wonderfully and makes everyone dance at home. She has a beautiful plastic hand, all movements are conscious, I am glad that we have noticed this predisposition of her since childhood. Serezha practiced taekwondo for half a year, but stopped. He has heart problems. In class, they ran a lot, and he began to choke. But we replaced wrestling with an exercise bike, a treadmill, so we have enough sport.
“I feel my children very well, it's not for nothing that I have been looking for them for so long,” the singer notes. Margarita's children wear Reima jackets
Photo: from the personal archive of M. Sukhankina
- Do you have any parenting rules that you, for example, take from the experience of your parents or everything happens intuitively?
I have a ton of literature on this. Sometimes, when questions arise, I flip through books on child psychology. I used to do it more often, now I rely more and more on intuition. I feel my children very well, it's not for nothing that I searched for them for so long and literally felt from the TV screen that it was mine. Famous story that at first I wanted one child, but it turned out that there are two of them and they are indivisible. And now I am so happy that I have a boy and a girl!
Photo: from the personal archive of the singer
- With which of them it is easier for you to find mutual language?
They are completely different, and different approaches are needed to them. For a long time I tried to educate them the same way, but it turned out that this would not work. If a boy walks on a straight road, then the girl walks in the courtyards. (Smiles.) At first, it was not easy for me with both, but now I have learned to understand them and put up with some things. Since childhood, they have been personalities with a certain core, because they had to go through a lot. That is why I ask the children to tell me everything, so that there is no deception between us. I want to be him, first of all, a close friend with whom they can discuss all their problems. Little by little we come to this. As for the one with whom it is easier for me to find a common language ... Probably with Serezha. He is closer to me, Lera is silent, sometimes he is cunning, he does not tell something. But the further, the more she trusts me. In the orphanage they told me: "Keep in mind, Lera needs to be liked, she must trust you before opening her soul." The first year there was a serious grinding, there were all sorts of situations, but the children realized that they could trust me, they understood that my home was their home. For a long time they said “at your house”, but today we were walking from the doctor and Lera says: “Mom, it's good that we’ll come home now, otherwise I’m so tired.” Children already understand that they are protected. For more than a year they asked when we left somewhere: “Mommy, will we come back? You won't leave us, won't you give us to anyone? " And one day I sat them in front of me and said: “Remember, I will never give you to anyone for any sweets and jewelry. You are my greatest treasure. "
Last year, the soloist of the Mirage group Margarita Sukhankina adopted two children from Tyumen - 3-year-old Leru and 4-year-old Serezha. The singer saw the kids in the program "While everyone is at home", where in a special section they talk about children who do not have a mom and dad. And I immediately decided to take them from the orphanage.
The singer completed all the documents, brought the guys home. On the second day they started calling her mother ... But ... a few months later, the biological parents of Lera and Seryozha appeared on her horizon. Alexander and his 25-year-old wife Olga. They said that they really miss the kids, so the kids should live in the house of their mother and father.
The soloist of "Mirage" Margarita Sukhankina: "I adopted wonderful babies, and now they want to take them away from me! "
True, life is difficult for them (the biological father of the children was convicted five times and still cannot find a permanent job. - Ed.). Because of this, even the eldest son - disabled from birth - cannot be taken from the orphanage. But unexpectedly surging parental feelings do not allow them to come to terms with the fact that Lera and Seryozha live with a wealthy and famous mother ... Moreover, Olga at that time was expecting another child.
For the singer, this came as a real shock: after all, the children for her have long become relatives ...
I will not give my kids to anyone! Lera and Seryozha lived in an orphanage for six months, no one visited them for six months. Their biological mother is deprived of parental rights. According to the documents, they did not have a dad at all: in the column "father" there is a dash. Sometimes Seryozha recalls his former life: “But when we lived with another mother, we were not fed there ...” I asked him if he wanted to see that other mother. He replied no.
Well, how am I going to give them? The kids are with me legally. Now they have warmth, comfort, motherly love.
Alexander and Olga first abandoned their daughter and son, abandoned them, and now they are shouting "help"! But children are not toys ...
I do not want to blame anyone, but a man who by the age of 30 already has five convictions wants to take my daughter and son away from me! What can he give to children? Or a mom with a bottle problem? Fortunately, even Alexander's mother did not support the impulse of these would-be parents. We talked to her, and she honestly admitted that she was glad that the children were in good hands.
I really enjoy being a mom. I finally understand for whom I open my eyes in the morning. I got the meaning of life. Fur coats, diamonds, resorts - I've already seen all this. You have no idea what I feel when I come home, and my children fly out of the house screeching to meet me: “Hurray! Mom has arrived! " Now I can call myself a really happy woman.
Sometimes children who grew up in star family do not know anything about their biological parents. However, real parents are those who raised, brought up, gave love and tenderness
Deciding to adopt a foster child is a difficult step, even for an ordinary woman. What can we say about the artist, who has a scheduled every day - tours, filming, concerts, recordings, and whose life is constantly under the gun of the media.
However, there are many cases when representatives of show business become wonderful, truly mothers for adopted children. About them - in the material EG. RU.
Tatiana Ovsienko
Famous singer Tatiana Ovsienko lived busy life- performed with concerts all over the country. Once fate brought her to distant Perm, and there she was invited to a charity event at the Baby House. By that time, Tatyana already knew: she could not have her own children. The doctors said so.
All the kids in the Baby House were having fun, running, laughing at the party, and on the sidelines a little three-year-old boy was sitting alone. He alone did not participate in the fun. The singer asked the staff what was wrong with him. "Pathology of the heart," - answered the employee of the Baby House with a sigh. It turned out that the boy's parents, upon learning of a sick heart, abandoned the boy immediately after birth. And now, according to the doctors' forecasts, he has nothing left to live - a few months, and maybe weeks ...
Tatiana could not accept this. She found a clinic where the sad-eyed baby was operated on. All the time, while the child was recovering from a serious operation, the singer was with him, and then she told her husband that she could no longer part with this boy, she wanted him to become her son. And since then Igor lived with his mother Tanya.
True, in adolescence certain problems began, and here he provided great support at that time already ex-husband Tatiana - Vladimir Dubovitsky. He took the boy to America, where he lived himself then. Igor still lives in America, but often flies to his mother in Russia.
Ekaterina Gradova
The actress who played the radio operator Kat in the popular TV series "Seventeen Moments of Spring", raised a talented daughter - an actress Maria Mironov. But at 47 years old Ekaterina Gradova the second time I happened to become a mother, only for an adopted child.
Visiting in Once again with the charitable purpose of an orphanage, Catherine could not pass by a two-year-old boy. She was very worried about how her husband would react to her desire to adopt a baby. However, the husband only supported her idea. The adopted son of Gradova is the same age as her grandson.
Margarita Sukhankina
Singer Margarita Sukhankina, under the phonograms of which the soloists of the Mirage group once performed, she could not forgive herself that in her youth she refused the opportunity to give birth to a child, having an abortion at the request of her husband. After that, she tried several times to endure and give birth, but then the doctors deprived her of her last hope, assuring that the singer was sterile.
Sukhankina saw two orphans from the orphanage on TV. 4 year old Seryozha and 3 year old Lera immediately won the heart of the singer, and she went to fetch her children in another city. So 48-year-old Margarita finally became a mother.
Only now she feels, according to her confession, completely fulfilled and happy. Margarita does not consider herself a heroine - she simply does not understand how she could live without her children before.
Natalia Belokhvostikova
The actress Natalia Belokhvostikova and her director husband Vladimir Naumov her own adult beauty daughter has already grown up. And there were no thoughts about adoption, but then fate intervened. Belokhvostikova performed at a creative evening in an orphanage. Suddenly approached her little boy with an unusual request - to give him a cross.
Three year old Kirill touched the heart of the artist. The very next day, 65-year-old Natalya Belokhvostikova and 80-year-old Vladimir Naumov came to this orphanage again, and soon they took the baby home.
Many condemned the married couple - why, they decided to take on the responsibility of becoming parents at a very mature age! But the artist admits that she and her husband have never regretted their decision. Cyril saved them from loneliness.
Irina Alferova
Happened to become a foster mother and actress Irina Alferova... In addition to his own daughter Xenia she raised two children of her third husband. When Irina's sister died, she took her nephew into her family Sasha... Of course, it was not easy. But she always thought that it was even more difficult for children! They had to get used to life with a new mother, adapt, and they had serious experiences.
However, today all the excitement is over. All the children of Irina Alferova are already adults, each of them is a successful person in his own way.