Love between brother and sister. “I fell in love with my half-sister. What do i do

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Last summer, my cousin, whom I had only seen in childhood, came to visit me. She lives in another city. I decided to show her our city, we were in many places, we just had a very cool time. And I fell in love with her, but decided not to say anything for now, she also built a relationship with my best friend, I was incredibly jealous, but I thought it would pass. Then she left, but it was not there, my feelings were not even dulled, I almost every night see her in a dream and have very deep feelings for her ... the next year it turned out that I went to visit my relatives, and she lives in the same city. We walked with her like that, and I felt incredibly good and at the same time unbearably bad that she was my sister, then after arriving in my city I began to play sports, study hard, NLP and other psychotechnics, trying to forget her, but it didn’t work. We communicated very closely every day, there were no secrets from each other, we discussed everything, I felt that this is SHE, because we communicated with her more as friends than as relatives ... It was unbearable and at one moment I couldn’t resist and decided to talk to her frankly and told her about my feelings, she said in response that she was sorry, but she didn’t feel anything like that for me, that she loved me only as a brother ... It was awful !!! For about a week I could not recover from this and was like dead, I abandoned everything, lessons, training, socializing with friends. Now I have only one thought - to die, in some way, I don't want absolutely anything anymore, I have no appetite, no thirst, it’s torture to sleep, because I still dream about it, but I wake up, it’s not there ... What should I do?

Hello Nurlan! Let's look at this from a different perspective. She's your sister ... incest works. It is a wise decision on her part to tell you that she loves you as a brother. Your girlfriend, the only one you will meet, you have a unique opportunity to love your sister as a SISTER and be her worthy brother. Work with your feelings, preferably with a specialist. Sincerely Olesya.

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Hello Nurlan.

A sad time is now in your soul ....

And it's hard to find words to relieve your pain, your loss.

And you really - have lost a loved one.

I don’t want to consider now the question that she is your sister.

You love her.

So fate has decreed that she has other feelings for you - friendly, brotherly - and this is also great.

The Lord saved you from the temptation to start a family with someone close in blood, but sold you friendship.

You know, it is difficult in a letter to talk about your situation in this way, to help you see - different possibilities and facets of life ...

Rather - this is possible in a personal meeting ...

Make up your mind - contact me.

G. Idrisov.

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Hello Nurlan! I do not know in what state you are now, but what you are going through is hard and unbearable, especially at first, but over time, this will also pass (words of the great Solomon) ... In life, one thing is invariable - this is the change itself ! It is important for you to realize your feelings and live, since it is they that "torment" you and do not give you peace ... And while living - letting go ... And take for yourself something useful from this situation, yes, yes, it is useful as a lesson! From my point of view: 1. That you have a beloved sister (or might not have). 2. That it is better not to postpone your feelings and recognition, but to clarify immediately, then it will become easier to clarify the relationship and live in reality, and not in illusions ... 3. "The role is more primary than the personality!" Before building relationships, it is important to determine the roles between each other, then the relationship will become clear. "Everything that is done is for the best!" It will take some time - and for you, if you wish, everything will start to get better and maybe even better, since this is simply not your girlfriend and you were deceived ... 4. We all make mistakes - we learn from them , even if this situation will teach you the Wise .., it is only important to draw the right conclusions and move on - this is not to compare your girlfriend with anyone else; appreciate what and who you have; start going about your business, studying and believe that the best in relationships awaits you yet! All the best! Respectfully yours, Lyudmila K.

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Hello Nurlan!

Your story is similar to thousands and millions of other stories of unrequited love, but the fact that she is your cousin, in my opinion, is not so important here. For example, my grandfather and grandmother on my father’s side were cousins, and with all their descendants everything is quite normal. And about your unrequited love, I think this: our feelings are free and we fall in love spontaneously, without choosing and not evaluating the object of love, whether it suits us or not. And in the same way, those whom we love are free in their feelings. They have every right to dislike us, even if we are simply dying of love. This discrepancy is very sad, and I would suggest that you grieve about it from the bottom of my heart. The world is not perfect and not perfect at all, and this is also sad. A feeling that is not divided and does not feed on reciprocal love usually fades over time, and the degree of your feelings, in my opinion, depends on whether you allow the object of your love not to love you or not. If you allow, then this suffering will not be long and strong, and it will be easier to process it into a rewarding emotional experience. All the best, Elena.

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Time: 02:52 Date: 04/08/02

My situation is simply catastrophic, I fell in love, but with whom, with my sister, with a relative, and moreover, she is 4 months pregnant, but not from me. She was supposed to have a wedding soon, but since our feelings are mutual, she will not. I agree to adopt a child, but I agree to anything, just to be with her for the rest of my life! Our parents are shocked, she was sent to another city, I can't find a place for myself! What to do !!! ??? How is it really all? Or is it worth hurting yourself and her and breaking this connection? Although, I do not care about her and my parents, I am 24, she is 20. But I would like, as they say, in a human way!

Time: 04:49 Date: 04/08/02

Well, if this is all mutual, and you are independent, then what keeps you? Second cousins, IMHO, can very well enter into marriage ... If you only want your child, you will have to go to the geneticist. And so - what's the problem?

Time: 09:40 Date: 04/08/02

I have a friend, he is married to his cousin(well, the guys had unearthly love). They have been married for 10 years, their son is 8. In general, everything is fine with them. So if everything is so serious with you, then do not be afraid of anything. And if you want a baby, go to a geneticist. Happiness to you!

Time: 10:51 Date: 04/08/02

The problem is clearly not in kinship, but in the sister's pregnancy ... Will the author be able to continue to relate to this adequately?

Time: 13:39 Date: 04/08/02

Yes, everything is fine with pregnancy, I am calm about this and I will love the child as my own, just how can I convince the society, which inevitably surrounds all of us, that this is a real pure feeling, and not some kind of pathology, as everyone is trying to explain. It’s very hard for me, but she’s scared to even imagine how!

Time: 13:41 Date: 04/08/02

My uncle has been married to his second cousin for quite some time (or my aunt is married to her second cousin, no difference). They have two sons (20 and 15 years old). In principle, everything is fine.
Follow her. But remember whether you can love and consider her child when he is born, because what you have now is euphoria. You can wait until she gives birth, and then see what you will experience for this child.
Good luck!

Time: 13:55 Date: 04/08/02

If you dare to unite your destinies against everyone else, I think .... it will be hard at first ..
But they are relatives in the end WILL FORGIVE, UNDERSTAND and everything will be OK)))
The main thing is that YOU both are confident in your feelings ...
Good luck and happiness))))

Time: 14:25 Date: 04/08/02

Well then, it's okay. Second cousins ​​are not relatives, there is no pathology in their connection. Cousins ​​get married, and nothing, and even more so ... Forget about the relatives for now, then they will have to accept the inevitable.

Time: 14:30 Date: 04/08/02

So everything will be OK. Parents will get used to it over time, but I don't see any problem. It is not a close relationship that will lead to incest.
Solve the situation with your parents, and if they refuse to understand, then they will get used to it over time, but responsibility increases
Success

Time: 23:57 Date: 04/08/02

I what? the most backward? No related marriages! If something goes wrong, you will blame yourself first of all! Yes, and you live with your relatives, which, in case of any problems, will remind you that this is because of your relationship.
Better treat her with the feeling of an OLD brother. Caring and loving. Just be there when she feels bad. And keep an eye out so that she is not offended by her husbands. Well, you will render financial assistance.
In general, you are just a BROTHER!

Time: 05:40 Date: 05/08/02

My parents are second cousins, although when they met they did not know about it. And everything is fine with them! They have lived together for almost 30 years, gave birth to two children, without going to any genetics. And everything is fine with my brother, no congenital abnormalities. After all, second cousins ​​are very far from each other.
You will be fine, Student! Take your beloved and do not think that she is a sister. For you, she is not a sister, but first of all a beloved woman.

Time: 05:40 Date: 05/08/02

"Or is it worth hurting yourself and her and breaking this connection?"
Those. Are you ready to break up with her on the advice of completely strangers, received over the wires?

Time: 10:11 Date: 05/08/02

So after all, he is not her brother - a second cousin. Such people are even crowned in the church. And the problems ... As for the child, they already advised me to go to the geneticists, and what other problems there might be, I still don't think of it.

Time: 11:02 Date: 05/08/02

I don’t understand at all what the geneticist has to do with it. What, in the student's family there are heavy hereditary diseases?

Time: 11:44 Date: 05/08/02

Well, he can wait, but what is she to do? Explain to the child's father that she will wait until her second cousin decides whether he will love this child or not? And in which case he will return?

Time: 14:59 Date: 05/08/02

I know everything perfectly well about dominant and recessive genes, I'm a student, and besides, medina. I am not at all interested in examining my situation at the subcellular level, I understand everything about genetics myself, it is important for me to understand, to feel that we do not commit some kind of crime in the eyes of people, although I do not care about everything, I only want happiness to her and myself ... I just want all the people around us to understand and not consider it some kind of unforgivable crime. I can't even talk about this topic, all my attempts run up against a wall of incomprehension. It's hard to live like that, but what to do ... you have to. I am afraid to upset my beloved, I don’t want her to worry, taking some kind of drastic decisions, she’s in a position and has already been kept for some time. I’m ready for anything, I can handle everything, but she ... I don’t want her to suffer, I want to resolve this situation quickly and painlessly for her, I want to be with her!

Time: 16:49 Date: 05/08/02

Well, what's the matter? Follow her and be always together !!! in love and harmony.
There is such a chivalrous motto: Do ​​what you must, and come what may. How are you loving person, must love and care, so go ahead! If possible - today for your beloved!

Time: 23:01 Date: 05/08/02

why are you suffering?

According to all laws, you have the right to be married, it seems that even in the church, second cousins ​​can already get married ...

To tmou, is it all the same to you? if you love - send everyone to ... and be happy! The land is big - a place so that you will not be bothered and where you can be happy and find human understanding there will always be!
Good luck!

Time: 03:07 Date: 06/08/02

The second cousin is very distant. Follow her and be happy. Parents will still accept everything as it is and calm down.

My name is Carolina, I am 13 years old, I live in England in a small village, in a small house, with my older sister Annie. My mother died of an illness when I was very little, and my father left home when I was 5 years old and never returned. And so from the age of five, I live with Annie, she is 17, she is very kind and smart, Annie taught me to read, count, write, and play chess. We live in poverty, and we have no money to send me to school. We still haven't starved to death just because Annie is sweating three jobs. Despite this, we lived quite happily until the disaster struck. One day a man came and said that one baron wants to demolish our house and that to prevent this it is necessary to pay a decent amount of money within a year. Annie took two more jobs, and now I had to stay at home all day, my sister only came late at night. Nine months passed in this way. Annie was at work, and I was cleaning the house, suddenly there was a knock on the door, I looked out the window, a man stood near the door and held my sister in his arms. I rushed to open the door. Annie! Annie! What with her?!" I shouted. “I don’t know, she fell down while washing the dishes, she is very emaciated, poor. Where can I put it? " the man said. I walked him into our room and he laid Annie neatly on the bed. “I'll go and call a doctor, and you look after her. Good?". I nodded my head. The man later returned with the doctor. The doctor examined his sister and thought. Soon he said, as if he were sentencing: “Critical starvation and malaise. If she continues to torment herself like this, she will die. " After the doctor left, the man said that he would come in the evening and bring something to eat. I sat down by my sister's bed and cried. “Fool, why? Why are you exhausting yourself so? Do not leave me. I don't want to be completely alone. "- I repeated. I saw Annie's hand squeeze my palm, and a tear slid down her cheek.
A few days later, I went to sell flowers to help my sister. A man of about forty came up to me, wearing a black cloak. He gazed into my face intently.
-Caroline?
-Yes. Who are you, sir?
-Karolina, daughter, do not you recognize? I'm your dad.
-Dad?
-Yes. Where's Annie?
-She's sick, she's at home.
-Is sick?
- Yes, she is emaciated, but her life is not in danger.
-Thank God. Ok let's go home
I was dumbfounded, but still followed him. We entered the house and my so-called dad took off his raincoat. He was very richly dressed. "Where is Annie?" - he asked. I silently pointed to the room, from which Annie's voice came: "Baby, are you already at home?" "Yes, little sister, and not one." - I shouted back to her. Annie came out of the room.
-Father?
-Hello Annie.
-N - But how? Where have you been? Why did you leave us ?!
Tears ran down Annie's cheeks.
-Sorry, but that’s how the circumstances were. However, now I am back and I promise that I will never leave you again. Annie threw herself into his arms and sobbed. "I missed you, dad." she said quietly through her tears. "So, girls, take what is dear to you, we are moving!" - Dad announced solemnly. "Where?" - we asked in chorus with my sister. "To the castle, my dear princesses." "Lock?" - we all quietly asked in the same shock. "Well, yes. Our family has the title of duke at court. " So completely in everything, without understanding, we gathered and went out into the street, there was a gorgeous carriage with four horses as white as snow. We got into the carriage and set off on the road. In the beginning, we arrived in London, where dad gave the order to the footman to take us home, and he went to the palace. After driving a few miles from the capital, we saw the incredible size of the castle; only the palace of the king himself could be bigger than it. Having approached the castle, a middle-aged man opened the carriage door. By nationality, he looked like an African American, he had a bandage on his face that covered his left eye, and he also wore white gloves on his hands.
- Please, lady, follow me.
-Who are you actually? Annie asked warily, hugging me with her hand.
- I sincerely apologize for my rudeness, my lady. I'm your butler, Sebastian.
- Very nice, my name is Annie, and this is my sister Caroline.
-I am also very pleased to.
We followed Sebastian to the castle. I let go of Annie's hand and rushed forward. I have only seen such incredibly large rooms in pictures. I wanted to run and look into every room of this castle, but Annie ran up to me and grabbed my hand. “I beg your pardon for my sister’s ill-mannered behavior,” Annie said apologetically to Sebastian. “Don't apologize. After all, this is your home. " - the butler replied with a smile. “Now, if you please, get acquainted with your servant” - clapping his hands a couple of times, Sebastian solemnly declared. Immediately, as if expecting a special signal, six maids, seven maids, a cook, a gardener and six more people who looked like teachers lined up along the corridor. “Good afternoon, young ladies,” the servant said in unison. “Hello,” Annie replied timidly. “You will get to know your subordinates while you prepare for your first ball,” the butler said with a joyful smile. “What kind of ball?” Annie asked, frightened. “Three months later, my lord is organizing a ball in your honor, he specially gave you enough time so that you could rest and have time to prepare for the ball. And now you can choose any room in which you will live, later I will bring you your things. I beg your pardon, but I must be a devout. At twelve noon, please, do not be late. “- with these words Sebastian bowed and went into another room. “Okay, thank you, Sebastian,” Annie replied with a bow. Without letting go of my hand, my sister took me to the second floor.
-Well, Carolina? Are you glad you will have your own room?
-Yes, but I'm somehow scared. So we won't be together?
- No. Silly girl, we'll just be in separate rooms.
There were many rooms on the second floor. We looked into each and as a result chose two small rooms with the thinnest wall between them. Mine had a large double bed, a chest of drawers with a mirror, a large wardrobe and an incredible window, from which you could see the sea. Suddenly there was a knock on the door.
-Who's there?
- Caroline, it's me Annie. I enter.
-Oh sure.
-Well, how do you like the room?
- Unusually large.
-A? I thought you were already on the bed.
-I am somehow not comfortable.
-Come on.
Annie grabbed me and the two of us crashed onto an incredibly soft bed. “You see, it's okay,” Annie laughed. “Sister with you, I'm not afraid of anything,” I whispered, hugging Annie. So we lain until lunchtime. " Wow! It's already 12, "- looking at the clock, said Annie, and kissing me on the forehead, added:" Let's go to eat. " I just nodded my head. I began to notice for a long time that I love my sister, not quite like my sister, I feel comfortable with her, and when she kisses me, I am speechless. She is more than a sister to me.
We went down to the first floor, where Sebastian met us and escorted us to the dining room, where dad was already waiting for us.
-Well, girls? Have you mastered it?
- Still getting used to it - said Annie - Isn't it Carolina?
-Yes
-Well, do you like it? - asked the father, looking at me.
-Highly! - Not holding back my enthusiasm, I flared up.
Realizing that I had not acted quite well, I quietly hesitated. Dad, instead of making a comment, laughed loudly.
-Yes, everything is as impulsive as before.
I blushed and embarrassed. Annie took my hand and smiled a soft and kind smile, and I felt calmer. After finishing dinner, dad said: "Okay, girls, you are tired of the journey, go to bed, and tomorrow you start classes." Annie got up, nodded her head in gratitude, walked over and kissed her dad on the cheek, I repeated everything after her. We went to our rooms. I washed, changed and went to bed. I could not sleep for a long time, got up and went to my sister's room.
-Annie, are you sleeping?
-No. Not sleeping. What are you wandering about?
-I can not fall asleep.
Annie turned to me, lifted the covers and said, "Lie down." I ran up and got under the covers. Warmly. Annie hugged me to her, and I felt her breath, it made me calmer. “I love you sister,” I whispered. "I love you too, Caroline" - Annie answered me, and we both fell asleep.
The next day, I woke up with a gentle kiss on the cheek. "Wake up, baby" - a gentle voice whispered to me. When I opened my eyes, I saw Annie's warm smile. With the words: "Breakfast is coming soon" - the sister got up and began to comb her long, thick, dark curls. Annie was just a benchmark female beauty: a magnificent figure, a beautiful, gentle face, blue and deep eyes like an ocean, plump red lips. And besides her beautiful appearance, she was very smart and economic, just perfect girl, Princess. Brushing her hair, she began brushing mine. „You have very beautiful hair... Like our mother, they are fiery red, thick and wavy. “- Annie said with a smile. In fact, my hair is very unruly and often gets tangled, but when Annie brushes it, it becomes silky and does not hurt at all. She made me a ponytail and secured it with a beautiful blue ribbon. Having changed and washed, we went downstairs. Father was already waiting for us in the dining room.
-Good morning girls. Why are you in your old sundresses? I have prepared your new dresses for you. Or did you not like them?
Good morning dad. No, we really liked it, we just thought these were dresses for the ball. Annie said confusedly.
Dad chuckled: "At the ball you will have just gorgeous dresses, and these are casual". We apologized for the misunderstanding and after breakfast, we went to change. I could not understand how to wear this dress, as it was of unusual sewing, so I went to my sister for help. Seeing her in a dress, I dropped mine. She was like a goddess, a lush scarlet dress, emphasized her figure, and a red rose on her chest added piquancy. Seeing me, she said, “What is it, Caroline? Can't put on your dress? Let me help". She neatly took off my sundress and, with the same neatness, in one light movement, put a dress on me, tied a belt on a bow and walked away. “Carolyn, you look great,” said Annie with tears. I immediately perked up and threw myself into her arms.
-Annie! Why are you crying? Did I do something wrong?
-No, you just look amazing, I tried so hard to give you all this, but I could not, Thank God, dad showed up on time and gave you everything that I could not give you.
-Sis, you gave me everything that I wanted so much, it was enough for me that you were always with me and found time for me, despite a lot of work.
Wiping away her tears, Annie said, “Okay, stop crying. Our classes will start soon. " And kissing me on the forehead, she took my hand, and we went to the ceremonial hall. Six teachers were waiting for us in the hall. "Miss Annie, you first have an etiquette lesson, and you, Miss Caroline, have a French lesson," said one of the teacher. "That is, we will study separately from each other?" - I asked, frightened. “It's okay, Carolina, will we meet after class well?” Annie said with the same gentle smile. I had to agree. A woman of about thirty in a simple gray dress, with black hair neatly pulled back, and kind dark eyes came up to me. She held out her hand to me, and we went into another room. I studied hard and my French teacher was happy with me.
-You are great, you are trying so hard.
- It's just that I'm very interested, and I want my sister to be proud of me.
-You love your sister very much. Truth?
- Yes
After the French lesson, I had a music lesson where I learned to play the violin and on the very first day I learned a small piece, thanks to Annie, she taught me how to read sheet music. After that there was a math lesson, which, again, thanks to Annie, went pretty well. After the other five lessons, I ran to my sister, the maids said that she had a dance lesson. I opened the door and looked through the crack. Annie worked really hard and was very good at it, despite the fact that she never danced. She is very stubborn and diligent, and if some business interests her, then she will perform it perfectly. Smart, beautiful, gentle, talented. Why doesn't she have a chosen one? While I was thinking, I did not notice how the door swung open. “Caroline, what are you standing there for? Come on in. Do you want to learn to dance too? “- said Annie, slightly dumbfounded. I went up to her and hugged her. The dance teacher immediately understood everything and said: "I think that's enough for today." Annie nodded appreciatively to him. The little sister took my hand and we went to drink tea.
- Well, how do you like the first day of class? Annie asked, stirring the sugar.
-It was very interesting, I learned a lot.
-I am pleased.
-Annie.
-What?
-You are very beautiful and smart. Why don't you have a boyfriend?
Annie blushed slightly and thought, then laughed softly and continued:
- Caroline, you're exaggerating.
- Not a bit
- Well, I see, there was no man who could win my heart.
I don't know why, but I was glad that my sister had no one. It means that she is only mine and she only loves me. “Okay, it should be late already,” Annie said, glancing at her watch.
-Sis, can I sleep with you today.
-Of course, baby.
We washed, changed and went to bed. I pressed myself as tightly as possible to Annie and pretended to fall asleep. Then Annie decided, as always, to kiss me on the cheek at night, I abruptly turned my head and kissed her on the lips. As expected, she had very soft and delicate lips. Annie jumped back in surprise. I already came up with an excuse for my action, but she just smiled and pulled me to her. Our day ended on this pleasant note.
Two months have passed. After that kiss, my sister and I became very close, but I didn’t dare to do such things anymore, however, in the deep night, while my sister was asleep, sometimes I gently kissed her, and I noticed that after the kiss she pressed me to her even tighter. We still went to class, and after that we drank tea. Annie was delighted with my success, which gave me an incentive to try even harder. Father was pleased with the work we had done and, considering that we were ready, he decided to postpone the ball until tomorrow. My sister and I were excited. But I was tormented by a strange feeling, and one question worried: “What if my sister meets her love at the ball?” Then evening came. I decided not to bother my sister and go to bed alone today. I could not sleep for a long time, when I heard the creak of the door, I got scared and hid under the covers. I heard creeping light steps, I shivered, I quietly began to cry. Suddenly I heard Annie's voice: Carolina, what are you doing? Are you crying? " Hearing my sister's voice, I rushed to her.
-Sis, I'm scared - sobbing, I said.
- I'm sorry, I probably scared you. It’s just that you didn’t come to sleep with me today, and I was worried. Sorry.
-No. Forgive me. I thought I was interfering with you, and tomorrow is a very important day.
- Stupid, you never bother me, and you will not bother me.
-Truth?
-Truth.
-Then ... then can I sleep with you today?
- Of course. Went.
As soon as I lay next to Annie, I fell asleep, but through the dream I felt something hot and soft touching my lips. But I don't remember if it was a dream or true.
The day of the ball has come. I woke up earlier than Annie and, seeing how she slept sweetly, I decided, before waking her, again kiss her. As soon as I got close to her lips, she opened her eyes. "Gotcha!" Annie said with a sly smile. I jumped back in surprise.
-Caroline, so you kissed me at night?
-No.
-Do not lie to me.
- Good. Yes, it was me.
- Caroline, you know we can't do this.
-But why? You like it too!
- Firstly, we are both girls, secondly, we are sisters. And yes, I don't like it, ”Annie said angrily.
“What about that night when I kissed you for the first time?” You didn't mind, and even smiled at me.
- I thought it was an accident.
-But…
- No "but"! Do not do that anymore!
-Good.
I never expected such a reaction from Annie, she never raised her voice at me. “Okay, we gotta get ready,” Annie said, taking a comb and brushing my hair. After doing my hair, she helped me get dressed. When she finished her work, she walked away and looked at me. I raised my eyes, and as soon as I looked at Annie, a tear came through my chest, and everything tightened in my chest. My sister, noticing my tears, made an indulgent face and came to wipe my face, in fear of crying even more, I hit her hand and ran to my room. I was in a lot of pain, everything was shrinking inside, the words said by Annie were spinning in my head. An hour later, a maid knocked on my room and said: "Miss, the ball will start soon, hurry up." I wiped away my tears and, putting myself in order, left the room and went to the ballroom. The whole hall was strewn with gold, the guests were talking. A crowd of gentlemen stood at the end of the hall. It was not hard to guess that this was where my sister was. I walked on and, noticing not far from my sister's fans, I approached him. Approaching him, I saw that my sister, noticing me, was trying to break through the crowd of men to me. Music began to play and a boy who looked my age came up to me and said: “Let me invite you to dance, my lady,” he extended his hand to me. I didn't want to talk to Annie, so I accepted the dance invitation. Our first ball has begun.

And although, according to many, such love has no right to exist, more and more girls fall in love with their older brothers. And not necessarily relatives. He may also be a cousin. However, this does little to save the day when love appears.

The phrase: "I fell in love with a cousin" speaks for itself. Some hide their feelings by suppressing them. Most often, they hide it because they are shy. But, if you think about it, you can come to the conclusion that such love will definitely not lead to anything good. If only because from the union of a brother with a sister, handicapped children are often born.

This is no longer a secret to anyone. You need to be careful, no matter how much brother and sister are attached to each other. Love, declaration of love to a brother - stories from the life of such a subject make many people think. The fact is that, as a rule, the love of a brother and sister is prohibited not only by society, relatives, but also by the church.

Nevertheless, the wording of the problem: "I fell in love with my brother" is increasingly common in various forums and discussions on the Internet. This is not to say that this problem can be solved in this way. Some young girls, finding themselves in such a situation, immediately seek advice from a psychologist. And this is the correct approach to this problem.

Because you definitely need a specialist who can abstract and give the right advice. After all, it is so important, at times, to listen to the opinion of a third, uninterested person. The situation is, without a doubt, stressful and here you cannot do without the help of professionals. In addition, a qualified psychologist will help you find the origins of this problem, and therefore, if possible, get rid of love for your brother.

A visit to a specialist is a prerequisite only if there is no strength to cope with the disaster on your own. However, if a person himself already understands that such love is unnatural, then all is not lost.

You should not run to a psychologist if there is an opportunity to independently figure out your problem and fix it. The fact is that only the girl herself knows all the subtleties and details of the situation in which she finds herself. Sometimes there are moments that you do not want to share with by strangers... Nevertheless, it is clear that without this, the problem cannot be solved.

However, whenever possible, you can consult with a specialist. The situation is further complicated by the fact that suddenly the brother does not know about his sister's feelings and treats her just like his sister. And the girl at this moment can harbor some hopes and build illusions. To prevent this from happening, you need to work on your emotions and feelings.

Oddly enough, but most of of our feelings arises initially in the head, and only then passes into the heart. So, a girl who sees a guy first evaluates his positive and negative qualities... Something attracts her in him, something repulses, and even if they even have something in common, this is only a plus and the girl falls in love with the guy.

It's the same here, only there is a presence family ties that you can't put anywhere. But it is because of her that people cannot be together. In many Western TV shows, there is such an often repeated plot when a sister and brother fall in love with each other, but the whole family curses and rejects them for this. At the same time, you need to understand that love for your own brother dooms both people to suffering. Therefore, it is best to talk to your brother about this situation. Discuss all possible sides and come to a solution.

There is one country, the state of Indonesia, which allows marriages between blood relatives. This law came into force only in 2010 and takes place to this day. However, he is practically not mentioned anywhere, so he is not widely known.

When preparing for a conversation, you need to immediately decide for yourself what exactly you will need to say to your brother. After all, if he does not know about his sister's feelings, then for sure, such a confession will immediately puzzle him a lot. Therefore, you need to prepare in advance for a serious conversation. It often happens that a sister and brother seem to communicate humorously, that is, they throw funny jokes, play each other endlessly, and thus this feeling of affection and sympathy arises between them, which is not very similar to the relationship of a brother and sister.

Probably every person who has a brother or sister has experienced such dubious feelings at least once in his life. But, the fact is that not everyone is aware of this. Moreover, this is rightly considered a deviation from the norm, like unconventional couples. To avoid irreparable mistakes and not do stupid things that you can regret later, you just need to try to communicate with your brother as little as possible. This can reduce the risk of feelings flaring up with renewed vigor.

It has been proven that the less the object of adoration is nearby, the less likely it is that love will live in the human heart. For this reason, it makes sense to rid yourself of this kind of temptation and exclude communication with your brother. It's another matter if this cannot be done, because brother and sister often live next to each other, but rather even in the same apartment or room.

Then there really is no point in avoiding your relative. On the contrary, you need to try to find more negative features in it. Psychologists say that the more negative traits will be found in a person, the less love for him will be. This method works not only in relation to a brother, but also in relation to any object of adoration and admiration.

Yet the best solution will get rid of obsessive thoughts in relation to his relative. To do this, you need to spend as much time with your friends as possible, go to entertainment centers, clubs, cinemas. Thus, the risk that a person will be visited by thoughts of love is reduced.

In conclusion, we can only add that no matter what the relationship is between brother and sister, you should never try to see them as a love affair. Insofar as love relationship with relatives, even if not quite relatives, lead to problems. It is best to turn your attention to someone else. As a rule, there are a lot of applicants, you just have to want and start paying attention to the sides. In any case, do not get upset and think that the situation is hopeless. There is a way out of any situation. It's just that he doesn't always suit.